The Pause …

Have you ever spent way too much time with someone?
When you meet somebody, who meets all your wavelength, expectations and somewhere they start feeling to be special in your life, the vacuum what once we had in our life starts getting filled.

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Sometimes life is like a road trip, we think that’s the fun, the drive out to a destination, windows down, with your selected common playlist songs, reading loud out to each other, talking through the nights, discussing everything under the sun, eating together, exchanging memories, what we could do together when finally the time comes to meet each other, planning to spend all moments one can catch up with. The list seems endless initially. So much fun together, never ever felt being this close with anyone in our life. Missing each other the moment a little separation comes in between…

We keep driving ahead … the drive goes smooth to an extent but then … Even if we are the most interesting people in the world, the cool common playlist songs slowly gets over, we run out of funny stories to tell, we get tired of reading out to each other, the other gets tired of listening, conversations drizzle down. For a second it’s almost scary, was this done on purpose, we ask ourselves, how do one just keep on going beyond all this?

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But the truth is that it’s this moment you get to know the other person truly. You are forced to be yourself in this situation, or as close your real self as you can be, infront of another person. There is no choice, it’s then you know whether the person you were traveling with accepts you just as you are or for what you are, for that’s the raw deal minus all the frills.

Yes it does hurt when once what meant as special is no more special, the sharing of everything under the sun comes to a halt, the missing becomes less, the completely crazy laughs have died down, the instant smile on their lips when they they see you have disappeared, the glitter and the love you saw in the other person’s eyes has dimmed down and so on and so on.

But if one successfully carry on the drive, beyond this pause point with the person besides you, take it from me it’s a lifetime journey of togetherness. For believe me, you both have learned to accept one another and have started to understand each other even in silence and remain entwined.

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How many of you relate to this in your own life. How many got stuck and how many crossed the pause point successfully. Do share your views and experience for a better understanding as to how to go on from this point of pause.

Anamika…

Author: anamikaisblogging

Uhmm! What do I say abt myself. Love to read, write, watch tons of movies and loves music. Educated enough to enlighten a few things to a few some who shows the interest to listen. This is me in a nutshell. Will let out little by little, like the cat out of the bag. Ok I think it's time to let out one more passion of mine, which I as much love as writing, and that is cooking. Trying out different new recipies with a slight variation added of mine makes my culinary skills a little adventurous cuisine.

9 thoughts on “The Pause …”

  1. A very interesting narration Ana.
    Your prowess is back in action.
    I am glad to see you after long hiatus.
    Hope things are ok from your end .
    Now coming to your narration,is it possible to tell why these things can happen ?
    Why and where things are going wrong ?
    Who is at fault ?
    So many unanswerable questions na.
    The sad part of life is,every body claims that they can never go wrong.
    So the world is filled with no wrong doers.
    How to get back to normalcy ?
    True what you said,each individual thinks that this is the time,both the person’s know the truth of other person!
    Life is funny,strange,with contradictions some times….looks like there is no end.
    Thank you for the thought provoking post.
    Glad you are back in WP,your followers are glad.
    All the best.
    Take care stay safe.
    Hope both the person’s travelling together realised importance of each other in their story and hopefully they reconciled.Happy ending !
    Continue to post more such interesting thoughts.
    We miss your poetry and those beautiful art paintings.
    Keep in touch.

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    1. Hey Sri, Long time… Yup it has been a while since my last posting. Today suddenly the words just poured out of me.
      I try my maximum to jot down the thoughts in my mind when this happens.
      Somethings in life has no answers Sri. It just happens. But the sad thing is when it happens with people whom we think will travel with us till last.
      But if the journey continues after the pause, then what else could one ask for. Probably those are the lifetime relationships.
      Hope everything is fine and safe with you. Thank you for such warm welcome back. Poetry soon follows my friend… Take care and a ton appreciation for dropping in.

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      1. These thing said to happen because we keep expecting by presuming and assuming,that is where disappointment crops.
        I too many times feel this kind of disappointments
        After all we are all human beings and it’s impossible to be without expectations.
        But these disappointments are short lived between the persons,once they understand truly each other.alway both the parties concerned can continue the journey together.I don’t thing it’s a tough job.
        I hope Ego is not playing the dirty games.
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  2. This was really interesting to read Ana. Andrew and I have been married for 25 years comming up in June. So I can say from experience that love does change. But not all changes are bad. I think if you always had butterflies in your stomach every time you saw one another it would make life hard. Comfortable can be comforting. I never grow tired of his warm hugs or the way that he is protective of me. Yes, sometimes neither of us listens to one another well, but we try and we make jokes about it. Sometimes you have to focus on what you have and not what you no longer have. Mostly those early days are just that–the start of something. It’s what blooms that matters. Some people don’t stick around long enough to see what blooms. Relationships take work on both sides. They take deliberate acts of love and kindness. As long as both sides want to see what blooms there is hope in those changes.

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    1. Hey Teens… Thanks a ton for such a wonderful experience sharing. Congratulations is due for your silver anniversary… Please convey my regards to Andrew too and may God bless you both with many more such wonderful years ahead.
      What a wonderful way in which you explained the transition period in every relationship. Yes expecting to have butterfly effects each time one meets the other is not possible but the warmth and the love should never dimnish. Cause it’s this warmth between both which keeps them close be it friendship or relationship. So nice of you to stop by and give in such deep meaning to the whole matter of ‘Pause’.
      Really appreciate your support Teens. May all the goodness be upon you and Andrew.

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