Have you ever spent way too much time with someone?
When you meet somebody, who meets all your wavelength, expectations and somewhere they start feeling to be special in your life, the vacuum what once we had in our life starts getting filled.
Sometimes life is like a road trip, we think that’s the fun, the drive out to a destination, windows down, with your selected common playlist songs, reading loud out to each other, talking through the nights, discussing everything under the sun, eating together, exchanging memories, what we could do together when finally the time comes to meet each other, planning to spend all moments one can catch up with. The list seems endless initially. So much fun together, never ever felt being this close with anyone in our life. Missing each other the moment a little separation comes in between…
We keep driving ahead … the drive goes smooth to an extent but then … Even if we are the most interesting people in the world, the cool common playlist songs slowly gets over, we run out of funny stories to tell, we get tired of reading out to each other, the other gets tired of listening, conversations drizzle down. For a second it’s almost scary, was this done on purpose, we ask ourselves, how do one just keep on going beyond all this?
But the truth is that it’s this moment you get to know the other person truly. You are forced to be yourself in this situation, or as close your real self as you can be, infront of another person. There is no choice, it’s then you know whether the person you were traveling with accepts you just as you are or for what you are, for that’s the raw deal minus all the frills.
Yes it does hurt when once what meant as special is no more special, the sharing of everything under the sun comes to a halt, the missing becomes less, the completely crazy laughs have died down, the instant smile on their lips when they they see you have disappeared, the glitter and the love you saw in the other person’s eyes has dimmed down and so on and so on.
But if one successfully carry on the drive, beyond this pause point with the person besides you, take it from me it’s a lifetime journey of togetherness. For believe me, you both have learned to accept one another and have started to understand each other even in silence and remain entwined.
How many of you relate to this in your own life. How many got stuck and how many crossed the pause point successfully. Do share your views and experience for a better understanding as to how to go on from this point of pause.